No more excuses.

Have you got something on your 'to do' list that you keep putting off for another day? Or something you talk about doing, but actually never get round to doing?  If you have, examine why you keep doing this. Do you really want to do this? Are you truly motivated and committed to doing it? Is this something you feel you should want to do? Is this something that you wanted to do once upon a time but that no longer suits you? Face it, it can't be THAT urgent or you would have already made a start on it. Your life is ticking along without you making a start on this. Your life still functions without this happening. Are you really sure its still a valid goal?

If you're sure that at some point you do want to go ahead and do this thing, what is stopping you from doing it now? Is it lack of resources? Time perhaps? or Money? (both?) Is it too big a task to complete? Do you need to do something else first in order to have the resources you need? (like get a relevant qualification in order to start up a business, some research for your book, to complete a current project before starting on a new one?) Can you break up your goal into smaller steps and simply make a start on one tiny step? Are you  overwhelmed by the time scale involved in your new project? Could you break this down into modules, smaller chunks, tiny baby steps rather than thinking you're having to undertake say a whole  three or four year degree or writing a whole book right now. See it as doing a term, and then another until finally its complete. Or writing a page, or a chapter, or an outline. If you're wanting to completely renovate your home, concentrate on one thing, in one room, and then the next and the next until its all complete.  

It's really easy to keep putting things off, using excuse after excuse, but it doesn't achieve anything. It's merely a waste of time, or breath (or both) Instead of feeling guilty for not making a start, or thinking up ever more imaginative excuses for not making a start, use a little time to decide whether you really want to do this. If you do, great. If not, cross it off your to do list and do something you do want to do!!!! 

Be mindful of the company you keep

Be mindful of the company you keep. Limited thinking people hold you back. Find those people with a positive,  forward thinking approach. You will become more like those people who influence you, so find positive, nourishing influences. Remain upbeat to attract good things to you.

When to quit..

It is hard knowing when to give up. Giving up too soon can seem defeatist but clinging on to a relationship/ job/ habit can be damaging. Wasting energy on things that no longer serve us can ultimately lead to illness and in extreme cases death. Sometimes becoming seriously ill is a shortcut to making the changes we don’t have the courage to make or being given the sack can then free us to do something else without us actively having to make a choice. 

Where the choice isn’t ‘our fault’ no blame can be taken for making a poor choice, or wondering if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. If suddenly we don’t have grass on our side of the fence, alternative options are always more welcome.

Giving something a go and deciding it is actually not for us can then help us to put the lid back on the box and file it away or tick it off the to do list. But how long should we give it before giving up.

 If you’ve got a sick feeling at the thought of doing it then you need to rethink. Fill your life with fabulous things and experiences that make your heart sing. Do those things you love. Not just as a treat but as part of everyday life. 

Make a point of prioritizing these things. Get people to help you do things around the house (or employ a cleaner) 

Write your urgent priority list down and delegate where you can. Then only do the urgent things unless you obviously have a non-urgent but very useful job that would free you up later to do something more worthwhile.

Close any energy gaps in your life. If you’re constantly thinking about it, deal with it , either take action, find a solution or deactivate it by writing a list to be dealt with at a set later time. Or find a friend who has expertise or experience to deal with it.