Love

Teenage girls (and grown women!) looking for love often do all the wrong things. They chase boys. They dress provocatively, they think that if they wait by the phone, ask boys out on dates, and always be available that they will instantly be loved. It took me a long time to realize that actually this is far from the case.

If you had something chasing you what would you do? Seriously? If something was chasing you, your immediate response is likely to be to RUN as fast as your little legs could carry you in the opposite direction. You'd probably find a safe hiding place and hide out of the way of whatever was chasing you.Boys are just the same. They don't like to be chased, it frightens them off. So don't chase them. Ever. Ignoring them works far more effectively. He won't understand why you're not throwing yourself at him like the other girls are. This is likely to get him to sit up and think that you're different to other girls, and probably wonder what makes you so special that you're not chasing after him, and before you know it, he'll be trotting towards you (whilst still running out of the way of the other girls who haven't read this and are still in hot pursuit of the poor chap)

They also like you to look a bit classy. That doesn't mean dressing like a nun, it means respecting yourself enough to cover up. You need to have the merest hint of what you might have to offer on show. That means having well fitting clothes that leaves plenty to the imagination. So no going out looking like a hooker, no wearing tops that are more crop than top, no shorts that are so short that you need an electron microscope to see them. It means using a hint of make up to enhance what you already have, rather than slapping make up on six inches thick. Boys generally like to see who they're kissing and for many boys lots of make up is a big turn off. They also hate getting covered in lipstick too, so if you wear lipstick make sure you blot it before going out. And pick your lippy colour wisely. Too pale and you'll look ill, too bright and you'll look like Coco the clown. Opt for a colour a similar shade to the colour your lips naturally go if you pinch them for a few seconds. It's usually not that different a shade to your natural lip colour.

 Boys like people who are interesting, and who enjoy a range of hobbies and interests of their own. So instead of waiting by the phone/ checking your messages continuously, get out of the house and do something!
Get on with your life, doing the things you love. Don't wait in for that text or keep checking your Facebook for messages every 10 seconds. Go help someone! Go invent something! Go get a job, a hobby, get tickets to a concert, travel, do anything but wait by that phone. In fact whilst you're out and about working, taking part in a sports team, looking for adventures, you're more likely to find someone who shares your interests and who knows you might find love when you're not even looking for it.

Boys look for interesting people who make them sit up and notice, who are themselves interesting. They want to learn something new, so you automatically deciding that you too like their favourite band, follow their hobbies, etc is nothing short of downright creepy.They are looking for something that makes you interesting, not for a clone of themselves. Boys want to date a girl, not a carbon copy of themselves, so be yourself. 

Whilst we know that it's ok for girls to do the same things as boys these days, avoid being the one doing the asking. If he wants to go out with you, he will ask you, unless he is very shy or hasn't got a tongue in his head. If he wants to go out with you enough, he will ask you himself, not let his friend ask you, not wait until you've had enough and done the asking. He will make the effort rather than let you get away. The only exception to this rule is if you're inviting a group of friends out and want him to be amongst that group. That is fine. Otherwise DON'T DO IT! 

Once he has asked you out, and you've finally found a date in your diary to fit him in (not today or tomorrow, you're busy for the next day or two, remember) you go on a date. Dress appropriately, with only a merest hint of the possibilities that await him, should he play his cards right. When you meet him. Be yourself, but try to maintain a bit of physical distance from him,on the first date. No throwing yourself at him. Be interested in what he has to say but don't hang onto his every last word. Leave him feeling like you were a good listener, but that there was more to find out about. Hopefully you can then progress onto a second date. If you give him the entire picnic on the first date, he's then going to be full and have no reason to come back for more.