Patterns set in childhood can be hard to break. Children absorb (or get taught) attitudes and a system of beliefs from their parents, grandparents, and peers which they then take on board for themselves. It is no wonder that illnesses get 'passed on' from generation to generation. If they are created by attitudes and thinking patterns, obviously the 'health problems' we experience will continue on down the generations.
Who says there is a 'medical' cause for illnesses? What if it is actually a state of mind, an attitude, that causes the patterns of one generation to occur in the next, producing identical symptoms? What if it would be possible to rewrite the script, and stop these conditions being passed down the generations?
You can change future outcomes if you change what you think and what you feel at the bottom of your heart. You are free to choose different patterns but you will need to be strong, you will need to refuse to give up and not sit back down at the first sign of trouble, or at 'failure'.
Imagine if we had done that when we first learned to walk! We would still be sitting down, shuffling along on our bottoms.
Changing takes practice, change doesn't just happen overnight. You might slip back into old ways and if you do, just start again. Do NOT give up, instead, love the mistakes you make, learn from them, love the choices both good and bad. Observe mistakes, but don't judge yourself for it. Take the lessons and move on.
What is the 'pay off' for the patterns that you repeat? Is what you're doing (or not doing) keeping you 'safe'? Do you hide behind your weight? Your status? Your job? Do you keep walking down the same life path so you don't have to face the 'danger' of doing something different? If you see the world as a dangerous place, full of people out to get you, or of experiences waiting to trip you up, then you will keep yourself in a place that is safe, where you don't have to face those things you perceive to be dangerous. It can mean that you stay in a blocked position unable to move forward. It also limits growth as you are not free to choose the more interesting options available to you.
Poverty and illness can keep you 'safe' from having to do things you might not want to do. It gives you an excuse not to have to go out or do things you might not want you to do, it gives you a role to play. Having lots of pets and therefore being tied to them, can also keep you 'safe'. You can't go out for a day with your grandchildren because you have to get back for the dogs etc.
Sometimes a pattern is repeated due to it feeling familiar. It can be an unconscious decision and it's not always a good thing. It explains why people seem to instinctively choose another dominating or abusive partner, even when common sense would dictate they should make a sharp exit. The patterns are familiar the roles are roles we've played before, the subdued housewife, the dominant party, the helpless one, the one who always knows what she's doing. Its only when we break through these patterns that progress can be made. It's easier to do what we've always done because doing something different would mean getting different results. This would lead to us having to perform different roles. If we always turn left at the end of the road, we will always end up going the same way. Sometimes its hard but refreshing to do things differently. It can positively waken up new neural pathways doing this.
Sometimes you have to take the plunge and give new things a go, no matter how scary they seem.
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